Say what you will about the content. The point is in the process, as we therapists say. I am referring to the tone of objections raised when our President won the Nobel Peace Prize:

• RNC Chairman, Michael Steel, rather than basking in the shared glory of a national honor, called it "unfortunate."

• Fox's Sean Hannity complained that Obama won the prize "for trashing America."

• RedState's Erick Erickson suggested that the Nobel Peace Prize had "an affirmative action quota for it."

Obama cannot win for losing. As Eugene Robinson noted in the Washington Post, "If Obama ended world hunger, they'd accuse him of promoting obesity." This is the classic dilemma faced by abuse victims. No matter what they do, they'll be criticized... or worse. The verbiage being hurled at President Obama sounds, to my twenty five years of counseling-trained ears, more like the rhetoric of abuse than of political discourse. Let's transfer this dynamic to another setting:

Imagine you're a social worker or a minister. A couple comes into your office because they can't agree how they sh