Ten years ago, Henry Badenhorst helped a friend find a date online - and the idea for Gaydar was born. But with success came scandal - and the tragic death of his long-term partner. Here, the man behind the world's biggest dating site reveals what makes him click Interview Patrick Strudwick
Henry Badenhorst has certainly been a quiet revolutionary. As Gaydar, the website he co-founded 10 years ago, became the world's most successful online dating site, Badenhorst remained silent. The site has transformed the way people relate to each other on and offline, an influence reaching far beyond its original ambition of hooking up single gay men. But apart from Badenhorst's regular namechecks on gay power lists - he tends to vie for position alongside the likes of Elton John, Ian McKellen and Evan Davis - we know almost nothing about him.
He's had his reasons to keep quiet. Gaydar has hardly lacked for publicity - on the contrary, it has been a godsend to media scandal stories. When Lib Dem MP Mark Oaten was found to have engaged in a sex act with a rent boy "too dis